The "Other Chick"

I woke up this morning and as always I open up my FB app to see my home-girl who will remain nameless put another female on BLAST!!!!! The girl decided to inbox my home-girl at 6:10a saying “Bitch find your own man cause this one is got” HMMMMMMMM……. 

Now while in this particular situation I’m def. on my home girl’s side. Girl Code Rule: NEVER EVER call the “other chick” (there are exceptions to this rule) Ill address the exceptions later.

Put your phone down and before you do something out of anger and hurt ladies…THINK!

1^st Re-read the msgs or whatever evidence you’re looking at. Does it sound like she KNOWS ANYTHING about you??? Is “your man” acknowledging this so called relationship you claim you’re in with him???

NO-Then why the hell would you call yourself “checking” another female, when she knew NOTHING about you. And 9/10  times the “other chick” didn’t know SHIT ABOUT YOU!!! She’s being subject to the same “game” this guy gave you! Be smart about your moves. Especially if you plan on just “checking” her and only to still be laid up with the same guy! Guess what you just did there WASTE YOUR TIME AND HERS!!! And most importantly you look MESSY!!! 

Sidenote: and for the LOVE OF GOD DON’T run your mouth to your girls about his FUCK UPS ESPECIALLY if you’re JUST going STAY!!! A wise MARRIED woman once told me…”You NEVER tell your ride or dies when there’s a problem until you know you’re all done! Because like any good ride or die friend we’re ALWAYS ready to BASH him with you!” No sense in causing yourself any unneeded or wanted embarrassment or judgment because you decided you wanted to work it out with him. It’s your life boo boo…DO YOU! Just use heart and take your brain with you!!!!

Like my home-girl so perfectly put it to the “other chick” “if you ever find yourself in another female’s inbox over a man then you’re losing”

 

YES-So in this evidence the “other chick” clearly states she KNOWS you’re his girl and HE even acknowledges this too!!!!! MY PERSONAL OPINION HERE: Who’s ass am I kicking first??? TOTAL DISRESPECT, as a real women any man that steps to you and acknowledges his woman and you still entertaining his BULLSHIT! You my friend need your ass whooped! And Karmas a Bitch! Now YES I’m talking SHIT BUT I’m also VERY SERIOUS!!! No one wants to be disrespected and look like a fool. I will also say this ladies, a hoe will take you checking her about “your man” and sometimes just laugh it off so KNOW who the fuck you dealing with! Some females are like sharks and just as THIRSTY as some men and when the see or smell trouble it only triggers them to go HARDER! Be smart about your moves! Move with logic and grace! And YES you can gracefully kick a hoes A$$ OH YES!

Or you can definitely choose to be VERY mature and just check him. I’ll keep it 100% I’ve done that before too! Sometimes it’s just NOT worth it. Your life, your choices. I’ve definitely seen both sides of this situation. I’ve seen the “other chick” entertain my man at the time (hoes) and even others tell him c’mon boo your tripping ya just going thru a rough patch, maybe you should bla bla bla..or just flat out ignore his ass! That’s a REAL WOMAN! She refuses to be second or eat anyone’s left-overs!

 

I’ll be honest I myself have had my share of finding the msgs to “other chicks”. I have sent my share of “inboxes” even! Yup I have played the “MESSY” card but you live and you learn. She didn’t know about me and I just happen to find out about her!  I called myself checking her! When all I did was embarrass myself. You KNOW your man better than anybody (or should lol) and if you know he’s going be a repeat offender then you honey have a serious decision to make! If they really are your boyfriend and you’re not imaging this relationship or obsessed with just some good dick. Like I said I’ve been there done that…but there comes a point in time in EVERYBODY'S life where you have to decide to keep fighting or walk away. Is this fight worth it to you? Love is NOT a good enough reason to hang on to a cheater and OH YES this is cheating! Love yourself first ladies or NOONE will! And what you allow will ONLY continue.
 

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I close my eyes tight trying to remember what it was like just to hug you, just to touch you and say your name during the thrust of our sweet lust. I miss you so much...

I'd do anything just to feel your touch.  I love you in every way a woman can love a man... 

Unconditionally...

Stay and fight...

“They say pick your battles" what if you don’t know if it’s the right battle to pick or not…

How do you really know when its time to STOP FIGHTING….Ill be real what I want I get it damn near at all cost, I'm a VERY determined young lady at times. So my perception VS. Reality sometimes is skewed. I just HATE letting go..It gives me the feeling of failure.I always feel like I have to leave every situation like

“I DID EVERYTHING I COULD” until I feel like I can literally “TAP OUT” then I CANT GIVE UP!I knew this BUT actually did not accept this about myself until recently. My girl told me "Baby you just DON'T like to give up"

All I could think of is Jene Aiko's song "The Worst" I DON'T NEED YOU...I don't need you..but I want you!!!! WE IGNORE OUR OWN NEEDS for what we want at that moment and end up in an unnecessary battle. JUST CAUSE!!!!! WHY-SIMPLE WE STUBBORN!!!!!

At the end of the day we fight for what we "want" VS sometimes what we truly and really "NEED or better yet DESERVE"

Life, Love, Relationships, Hair, Men, Women none of this shit is perfect just make sure your fight is WORTH IT. My biggest lesson learned is not that I don't know how let go sometimes.. but its all my lessons learned from all those fights. I can walk away (when I'm done and have TAPPED OUT) and ALWAYS have a "I learned my lesson moment" If you walk away with out have learned a thing it was all a waste of your time. Time is precious and you cant get it back so it shouldn't be wasted for ANYBODY!